Neil Strauss – StylePUA Lingo. Take a poke around this site, and you will doubtless find a word or two that you may not have seen before. Be not afraid.

It is in the nature of “the seduction community” to invoke an empirical and analytical approach to intersexual communication, in much the same way as I would deconstruct the process of learning a new language or rehearsing a new song. When it comes to dealing with real-life people with real-life emotions, this can be both a blessing and a curse. But one inescapable truth remains: deconstruction is huge.

The Community could write its own lexicon of terms, PUA lingo and jargon, most of which I aim to avoid. That being said, here are some that you really should know, as I am prone to break them out sooner or later.

The Lexicon — PUA Lingo / Jargon

To open someone is to approach them and start, i.e. open, a conversation with them.

Set pieces and canned routines are similar to their athletic meanings in that they are conversation pieces that have been rehearsed in advance to some degree. The discussion of when and where to use set pieces is one of my favourites.

An indirect opener is a means of starting a conversation without explicitly expressing sexual interest. A direct opener is naturally a means of opening whilst stating direct interest.

Opinion openers are typically set pieces that function as one very popular variety of indirect opener. An opinion opener involves starting the conversation by asking an opinion-based question. Situational openers can be direct or indirect, but always play off of something particular to the given moment.

A set is a group of people. Yes, one could say “my wing and I approached a group of four girls”, but it is a bit quicker to say “we approached a four-set”. This is one of those words that I generally avoid, but I can guarantee it will slip out every now and again.

The hook point is the point at which your opener has “hooked” and the set is now interested and invested in you and your conversation.

Within each group of people there is typically a target, or the girl to whom you devote your attention. “Target” can sound dehumanising, and I tend to not use this term much either, but it does reflect the element of focus that is important for the individual doing the approaching.

Demonstrating high value (DHV) is a necessary part of creating attraction. One uses DHVs to show others that one is self-confident, self-reliant, and/or a leader of men (alpha male), that one has women in his life, regardless of whether they are friends or lovers (preselection), that one possesses a willingness to emote when appropriate and to a reasonable degree, and that one cares for his loved ones (protector/provider). Demonstrating low value (DLV) is the opposite of DHV.

Comfort/rapport are two phenomena that do not serve to actively create attraction but nevertheless help create a more thorough and lasting connection between two people. Comfort is rather self-explanatory. Rapport is the feeling of being in-sync or on the same wavelength with another individual. Both of these feelings exist both on a base, conversational level, and also on a deeper, sexual level, and an effective individual develops connections on all of them.

A frame is an individual’s perception of reality. Frame control is an important aspect of microcalibrative game and involves bringing another person’s frame into congruence with your own, thus asserting a frame that is consistent with your priorities and values onto the interaction. This is advanced stuff that can go very wrong if abused or misunderstood.

Buying temperature (BT) comes from the world of sales and refers to the state of an individual with respect to his or her willingness to invest in something, in this case in us. BT Spikes are moments in which the woman’s state is more congruent with the man’s advances. Buyer’s remorse (BR) is a woman’s possible response to any such investment, and generally stems from realising that she invested hastily or imprudently. It usually denotes a deficit of comfort.

To close a target is to achieve the goal of opening. Some count various degrees of “closing”, most common of which are getting the woman’s mobile number (#-close), kissing her (k-close) and sex (full close). Some include closes such as the Facebook-close and others, but this is largely seen as less reliable a marker than the traditional closes. I generally avoid noting specific closes, with some exceptions.

So there’s that. I will update it as I go, as there will almost certainly be terms that pop up and need clarification.


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