True story: picking up girls on Facebook is weird. I asked seven girls why.
In the increasingly wide world of online dating, one will invariably run into the discussion of social networking and meeting girls on Facebook. For the past few years I have maintained a personal policy to avoid “opening” new girls on Facebook with smalltalk. I have always felt it is awkward, and whilst I have had a few “successful” interactions that have led to dates and more, I still see cold-opening via Facebook to be a poor card to play.
In my search for justification for my beliefs, I went to those whose opinions matter most: the lovely ladies of Facebook. Some of the responses were as expected. Others provided some invaluable insight as to why guys who try to pick up girls on Facebook tend to wind up in the friend zone – or worse.
I do not mean to imply that you should burn the list of comic one-liners you have made. This post is simply intended to get to the bottom of the process of experimental learning, perhaps helping to reveal, among other things, why cheesy pick up lines generally do not work.
Background: One Friday afternoon about six months ago I had a fantastically thought-provoking conversation with a newcomer to the realm of self-development over beers at the Blackstone Brewpub and Brewery in Nashville, and I have been thinking off-and-on about a certain concept, this one aspect of dating and lifestyle development, ever since. Regardless of your particular personal goals, understanding that relationships and learning are multidimensional in nature will vastly increase the ease with which you communicate with the women you meet.
Ahhh, the first date. So much unnecessary stress. Who pays? Where do you sit? What about awkward silences? The truth of the matter is that when it comes to dateing, the fairer sex relishes these various conundra and first date faux pas just about as much as the men who are expected to lead the date into more exciting and entertaining areas. Simply put: first dates can be as stressful as they are exciting.
So how can you turn that all-important first date experience into one that she – or he – will never forget? The answer: Envelopes.
Online dating has tremendous potential. Anyone who has put the time and effort into developing his own personal strategy and success formula will agree with that. I have personally benefitted from this way of getting to know people and, since I am no longer active in the realm of online dating, I have decided to share my methods with the world.
There are countless discussions on any relationship or sexuality forum dedicated to openers for use on the best dating sites such as Plenty of Fish, OKCupid and other online dating venues. While these all offer great value in their own right, they are no different from the standard “jealous girlfriend” openers in that the opener itself is meaningless if you do not have the substance to back it up.