True story: picking up girls on Facebook is weird. I asked seven girls why.
In the increasingly wide world of online dating, one will invariably run into the discussion of social networking and meeting girls on Facebook. For the past few years I have maintained a personal policy to avoid “opening” new girls on Facebook with smalltalk. I have always felt it is awkward, and whilst I have had a few “successful” interactions that have led to dates and more, I still see cold-opening via Facebook to be a poor card to play.
In my search for justification for my beliefs, I went to those whose opinions matter most: the lovely ladies of Facebook. Some of the responses were as expected. Others provided some invaluable insight as to why guys who try to pick up girls on Facebook tend to wind up in the friend zone – or worse.
I do not mean to imply that you should burn the list of comic one-liners you have made. This post is simply intended to get to the bottom of the process of experimental learning, perhaps helping to reveal, among other things, why cheesy pick up lines generally do not work.
Ahhh, the first date. So much unnecessary stress. Who pays? Where do you sit? What about awkward silences? The truth of the matter is that when it comes to dateing, the fairer sex relishes these various conundra and first date faux pas just about as much as the men who are expected to lead the date into more exciting and entertaining areas. Simply put: first dates can be as stressful as they are exciting.
Online dating has tremendous potential. Anyone who has put the time and effort into developing his own personal strategy and success formula will agree with that. I have personally benefitted from this way of getting to know people and, since I am no longer active in the realm of online dating, I have decided to share my methods with the world.